Thread:Ursuul/@comment-29771477-20180209234758/@comment-28083312-20180210172852

You might’ve done things to avoid upsetting him, but his extreme response blasted it completely out of proportion. Unless you really were egging him on & just didn’t tell me, then yeah you couldn’t have known he’d go so overboard so it isn’t your fault. So you say it makes you feel upset seeing Rox with Jaxon, & you’re asking me if you should feel guilty about hanging out with other girls besides Rox whose company you enjoy. Right? If so, then what I’m saying is that you should ask Rox if she cares or even noticed that you like hanging out with other girls in a friendly way. If she doesn’t care then you don’t need to feel guilty & you can go on doing what you want, if she does care / is bothered by it then try to make her more comfortable. If I read you wrong & you mean that you’re physically attracted to other girls, like in a sexual way, & that’s what’s making you feel guilty, then you’re in luck because just about every man on the planet has the same issue. No, you shouldn’t feel guilty because you’d never cheat & you can’t help it anyway, plus feeling guilty about it can actually make it worse / more tempting. One thing you can do to stop focusing on girls is to distract yourself. Busy yourself. If you feel the urge to leer at someone across the classroom, focus harder on your assignment instead. If you’re going through social media (or even an individual person’s social media) & you can’t get away from seeing them, then get off social media & read a book or watch a YouTube video, anything. It helps you be more productive while at the same time giving you a sense that, even when you aren’t working, you just feel “too busy” to be bothered by anyone’s looks except for that special someone, it won’t even phase you. You can do 84 if you want, I’m just pointing out alternatives. She may like it &/or appreciate the effort sunk into it. When I say 3, I’m not saying do a list like: I’m talking about something meaningful, with depth. They should’ve be too long, 1-3 sentences per item in the list, but each one should show to Rox the depth of your connection to her & how well you understand her as a person. Isolate the core character traits of Rox’s personality, & tell her how much you love them.
 * I like your personality.
 * I like your hair.
 * You’re funny.